Turning a school culture of blame into a culture of respect!

Solutions are not born out of blaming teachers, parents or students! 

How do you reach a mutually beneficial win-win solution "Modus Vivendi" using shared micro goals and a shared vision?

Equality, equity, fairness, justice, commitment, multiple perspectives, and shared solutions. 

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Turning a school/classroom culture of blame and excuses into a

Take Responsibility! 

culture of respect, wisdom and success. Leadership is about finding solutions not laying blame or using excuses. Initiating and reaching a Modus Vivendi in your school when problems arise will create a classroom culture of wisdom, responsibility and student independence. Classrooms that link risk taking, failure and responsibility with wisdom and resiliency will develop a growth mindset in students that can and does transform student learning and achievement. Using a modus vivendi model creates a way forward through successes and failures and helps students develop wisdom. American classrooms are risk adverse and failure adverse. The wisdom of resilience, responsibility, independence is never gained when we do not allow our students to grow-up and take risks for fear of failure. Students need to learn to how to be independent by managing responsibilities, failures and risk taking. Intrinsic motivation is powerful and the only real path to sustained success. Sean Taylor

Modus Vivendi, if all sides reach a modus vivendi regarding desired objectives, despite personal, educational, emotional or cultural incompatibilities, an accommodation of their respective differences is established for the sake of meeting a mutual positive objective or educational outcome.

Socratic method, is a form of cooperative argumentative dialogue between individuals, based on asking and answering questions to stimulate critical thinking and to draw out ideas and underlying presumptions.
Steps of Reaching a Modus Vivendi using Problem Solving Dialogue ! WIN-WIN!

All stakeholders need to participate in finding a path for all parties to succeed and thrive. Many Student Study Teams, IEPs, Student Action Plan Teams leave out the most important stakeholders the student, parents. A lack of information or misunderstanding will hamper crucial factors for student success. People are NOT the focus, Not the problem. And are NEVER blamed! The Modus Vivendi is to find a satisfactory solution to learn from failures and find paths to success.

IDENTIFY A POSITIVE OBJECTIVE!

1. Identify your mutual desires and fears! Find mutual positive goals, objectives and preferred outcome! Remember the Modus Vivendi framework, people are not the problem they are crucial to helping find solutions.
   
2. Identify personal strengths and imperfection that will hamper or interfere with meeting your positive objectives. Using I-Language is very important, remember to focus on acknowledging and taking ownership of culpability and real solutions. Learning from your own failures and weakness teaches responsibility, resilience and independence. Praise the wisdom that is gained from finding positive solutions.
3. Look at real needs and list them, make sure they differ from arbitrary wants or desires! Needs have to be very explicit, “Why are they imperative to a solution that helps all stakeholders win?” Buy in only happens when success is tied to meaningful logical needs.
4. Use an agenda that asks parties to focus on solutions, not people.
5. Describe your needs explicitly and give a reason why it is important, give evidence when possible why your needs are important. Using I-Language for all parties is important but remember to focus on needs and possible solutions.
6. Ask participants to acknowledge each others needs without judgment or commentary. Teachers and facilitators should paraphrase all needs, opinions, solutions to ensure everyone understands.

Discuss multiple solutions and paths to success: Redefine Success Objective

1. Identify and define the individual actions all stakeholders will employ to meet the objective
2. Generate a number of possible solutions to each problem that has hindered success in the past. Require each stakeholder to take ownership of defined success objective
3. Appraise alternative solutions
4. Agree on the best solutions

Follow-up weekly and employ modifications as needed