How do you reach a mutually beneficial Modus Vivendi using a positive dialectic?
Modus Vivendi, if all sides reach a modus vivendi regarding desired objectives, despite personal, educational, emotional or cultural incompatibilities, an accommodation of their respective differences is established for the sake of meeting a mutual positive objective or educational outcome.
Socratic method, is a form of cooperative argumentative dialogue between individuals, based on asking and answering questions to stimulate critical thinking and to draw out ideas and underlying presumptions.
Steps of Reaching a Modus Vivendi using Problem Solving Dialogue ! WIN-WIN!
All stakeholders need to participate in finding a path for all parties to succeed and thrive. Many Student Study Teams, IEPs, Student Action Plan Teams leave out the most important stakeholders the student, parents. A lack of information or misunderstanding will hamper crucial factors for student success. People are NOT the focus, Not the problem. And are NEVER blamed! The Modus Vivendi is to find a satisfactory solution to learn from failures and find paths to success.
IDENTIFY A POSITIVE OBJECTIVE!
- Identify your mutual desires and fears! Find mutual positive goals, objectives and preferred outcome! Remember the Modus Vivendi framework, people are not the problem they are crucial to helping find solutions.
Identify personal strengths and imperfection that will hamper or interfere with meeting your positive objectives. Using I-Language is very important, remember to focus on acknowledging and taking ownership of culpability and real solutions. Learning from your own failures and weakness teaches responsibility, resilience and independence. Praise the wisdom that is gained from finding positive solutions.
Look at real needs and list them, make sure they differ from arbitrary wants or desires! Needs have to be very explicit, “Why are they imperative to a solution that helps all stakeholders win?” Buy in only happens when success is tied to meaningful logical needs.
Use an agenda that asks parties to focus on solutions, not people.
Describe your needs explicitly and give a reason why it is important, give evidence when possible why your needs are important. Using I-Language for all parties is important but remember to focus on needs and possible solutions.
Ask participants to acknowledge each others needs without judgment or commentary. Teachers and facilitators should paraphrase all needs, opinions, solutions to ensure everyone understands.
Discuss multiple solutions and paths to success: Redefine Success Objective
Identify and define the individual actions all stakeholders will employ to meet the objective
Generate a number of possible solutions to each problem that has hindered success in the past. Require each stakeholder to take ownership of defined success objective
Appraise alternative solutions
Agree on the best solutions