The most important factor in a child’s education is the parents’ expertise for this “job”. No one is born holding all the knowledge, but we can learn and understand some things from books, blogs or advice from qualified persons. Teachers need to guide parents when they are operating on emotion and not acting in the best interest of students success. Parents need to guide teachers when they have views or ideas that will grow curiosity, creativity and an intrinsic love of learning.
Amongst the commandments parents and teachers should strictly follow are the following:
1. Do not underestimate your students/children – they can understand and do far more than you think and if you make them believe you think poorly of them this might affect their development and self-worth.
2. Don’t use threats – students/children love a challenge and love to learn but once threatened they might go on with the task to escape the punishment but the fire of creativity and the spark of curiosity may be extinguished.
3. Do not bribe your students/children – if you are trying to get them to learn for money or rewards, for example, they will fail to understand the purpose or importance of learning, all they will get from this is the importance of money and getting rewards. Your child will endlessly ask what do they get for learning or completing a task, the intrinsic desire to learn will be stunted.
4. Do not make a small child promise to do something – a small child will readily make promises when asked, but small children can’t remember or keep promises so don’t force them to lie and then punish them because they disappointed you.
5. Don't keep your students/children on a short leash – to grow up normally children need some space, some freedom and trust. Keeping children from experiencing real trust and all the responsibility that goes with it, we end up micromanage children's lives and create children that are incapable of dealing with failure.
6. Do not use big words, too many words or figurative language when you are talking to small child – keep your ideas simple and concrete/concise so they can understand everything you have to say. Older students/children use big words, verbose prose and figurative language whenever you are talking to them. Yes confuse them.
7. Do not expect obedience and responsibility all the time– a child has to be taught to think for themselves and deal with the consequences, they need to learn when to follow orders, question and disobey.
8. Do not indulge students/children – indulging and rewarding students/children in not caring for them, making your students/children happy with rewards is making them incapable!
9. Do not compromise when it comes to the rules especially the Golden Rule– for rules to become educative, formative, and intrinsic all aspects of the Golden Rule must be respected. A game is never fun or fair with no rules!
10. Don’t impose arbitrary rules that don’t fit with the age of your students/children.
11. Do not try to inflict guilt or use guilt to motivate students/children – guilt is not an appropriate external motivator for children, especially if they are little.
12. Don’t give your students/children rules that you don’t take seriously or model – your students/children may try to please you and follow the rules, but they will see your hypocrisy and may not respect you or future rules.
All these “commandments” are addressed first to the parent. But they are to be referred to by teachers and educators as well. Along with the parents, they will settle upon an attitude and strategy for the education and growth of the child, so that they can give him all the things he needs to properly develop emotionally and physically.